Everybody has melancholy days
Last week was the best week ever! You had a great dinner with friends, all’s great with the spouse, your boss gave you a compliment with a holiday bonus or maybe your child just turned one year old. Why do you feel sad or blue today? You got 8 hours of sleep, next month is the family Caribbean vacation, and ever since you woke up today, there’s been a heavy, sad cloud hanging over your head for no reason. When I have one of those days, I ask myself, is it just me? I’m not a doctor, and I have no degree in this area. I am just a gal who hates days that make me sad for no reason and wanted to share my “go to” pick me ups.
Fine, stay in the rut
When you’re feeling blue, the first step is finding the motivation to pick yourself up out of the blahs. This is half the battle, as your brain is helping fuel the funk. Tell yourself it’s time to pick yourself out of this gloom and turn this blah feeling around. If you let yourself wallow, you’re fueling that dreary feeling, so motivating yourself is the first step in the “blue” battle.
A little dirt won’t hurt anyone
All of us could use a walk. Find a trail, hit a park, or brave the road to your corner store. Fresh air is one of the biggest up-lifters for anybody. Lack of oxygen or not taking deep breaths can take a toll on the body, so anything you can do to get those lungs pumping is uplifting. Also, stretching the body for a few minutes can make a world of difference, loosen you up, and hopefully get the brain to calm down for few moments.
You need a drink
Forget about everyone else and take a break. Go to your favorite bar, coffee shop, or restaurant. Ask for the table of 1 by the window, or sit in that corner booth. Have no purpose but to sit by yourself with either a newspaper, novel, or some earbuds with your favorite music. Keep the computer with the work proposal due in 2 days in the car. Just relax with a cup of coffee, iced tea, or my drink of choice, champagne. Surround yourself with a beautiful atmosphere like a hotel lobby lounge and just relax, checking every thought, good or bad, at the door.
I mean life changing, significant moments. Write them down. Take the time and list what has shaped your life. Forget the bad stuff: death, divorce, etc. Only the things that make you smile. Your marriage, children, graduating college, buying your first car, etc. Life’s moments are what have shaped you, and you should be proud of at least 10 things in your life. Unless you take the time to recall and reminisce, you will not remember how instrumental they were in getting you where you are now.
Listen to Jerry
They say, laughter is the best medicine. I grew up in the Seinfeld era, so give me a few episodes watching George Costanza (“The Contest” episode is my favorite) and my blues fade away. Laughter is a guaranteed way to pick yourself up, so scroll through Netflix or pop in that DVD. It is said that laughter releases endorphins, so why not find a way to giggle yourself out of the blues. A quick half hour or 2 of your favorite comedy is a remedy I want to watch.
Not only you
I promise, it’s not only you. Every person has those days of melancholy feelings. Some people know exactly the problem, and others do not know why this gloom struck. Wanting to turn around that frown to a smile is within you, but you need have the desire to get that skip in your step back, and I hope a few of these tips help you get there. As my mother always used to say, “This too shall pass.”